‘BhaTransfer ryas to torture others? Will this happen in Kerala? ‘ This is what Kerala asked each other in astonishment when the details of the incident where the husband handed over his wife and tortured her to others came out in Karukachal, Kottayam. According to the victim, many women are involved in this ‘partner exchange trap’. What happened to Kerala’s conscience to make it work like this?
Leading psychologists say that ‘partner exchange’ is unheard of by the average Malayalee, but it has already happened in our society. Leading mental health expert Dr. K.S. Says CJ John.
‘Couple swapping’ on car key
Dr. In the words of CJ John – ‘Couple swapping is nothing new. It is an event that has been going on for a long time among those who think we are honorable among the upper castes of the society. They all come together in one place and take each of the car keys blindfolded as if they were a lottery ticket. Whoever got the car key, their partner should sleep with him. It was known as the Key Club. This is not about money. Instead, they say, just for fun, to avoid boredom.
Ten years ago a case related to this came to me. The exchange of partnerships between them took place naturally. However, the husband objected when he realized that his wife was in love with one of them. It was only when the joke started that he realized it was significant. He did not like to be in touch with his wife and friend and make phone calls. He asked his wife if this was not what we meant by just sharing the night. Their taste buds ended there.
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Isn’t this transfer an object? I have to ask them, isn’t it a body with a mind? It can be interpreted as part of the new generation’s quest for pleasure and part of open sexuality, but the devaluation it causes is enormous. What is the future of children who see such parents? How safe are they? This is the perception of children that they are right. This can lead to society and children leading to sexual anarchy. It can also lead to other exploitations in addition to taste.
From the point of view of innocence, such acts lead to the interpretation of child sexual abuse and drug abuse as a pursuit of one’s own well-being. With the advent of social media and WhatsApp today and the availability of access for anyone to see anything, such things have become easier. The proliferation of social media groups makes things easier. Dating apps are also a tool for this today.
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It can be interpreted as an aspect of man’s innovation. Women are not like men. They are a little more emotional. Love and care are important in their lives. It is also natural to fall in love during couple swapping. It can not be wrong for children to see their parents moving like this and go on a quest for innovation. It is an act that detracts from the aroma of traditional family life. There are few values in life and family that go beyond external comforts. If everything imitates the West, our country will move towards anarchy. The family equation and the morality of the relationship will be traded.
When asked if women consent to such things, one can see two types of behavior. One who can contain it all. There is nothing wrong with either; They are the ones who think that open sex is to be enjoyed. Others are brainwashed by their husbands. They are the ones who do anything for the happiness of the husband. Those who give in to all this so that he does not feel animosity towards him. Three types of relationships have been observed in women. One is the first to interrupt. And those who slowly begin to enjoy it. Then they will fall in love around it. Women can do nothing emotionally. Those who can contain three difficulties.
Transferring a partner is not a psychological issue. It is a flaw in the outlook on life. It can not be called a mental disability. It should be seen as a thought to avoid the boredom of being the same partner; The eagerness of the youth to innovate.
But this does not seem to be the case in Kottayam. It is understood that he was actually posing for his wife. It is clear that it was done for money. Handing over a wife to eight or ten people is not ‘wife swapping’. That includes unmarried men. The fact that there is no case for it, by mutual consent, adds to the scale of such mistakes, ”says CJ John.
‘Leading to disaster and blackmailing’
As Clinical Psychologist Silesia puts it about couple swapping … ‘I understand that partner exchange has been around for over 50 years. In the past, it was customary for siblings to share a wife so as not to divide the family property. The film ‘Bronze’ is an example of this. Couple swapping is done by mutual consent. And many seek treatment to recover from the trauma of finding one.
If you search the internet, you will find articles on things to look out for when it comes to couple swapping. It is said that a happy marriage requires work from both parties. Not only husbands but also wives take the initiative. In one case, a young woman who had studied and worked abroad came to me and took the initiative to change her partner when she returned home. But her husband could not agree more.
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The wife found a partner she liked. However, he could not contain his wife. The woman who came through the partner exchange was not in line with his conceptions. Then he got into a bad mood. He had a skin disease and he thought it was caused by this relationship. It haunted him constantly. And he fell into depression.
Although many people despise monogamy and monogamy, it is also a solution to a big problem that affects our physical condition. This value also helps us to get rid of sexually transmitted diseases. People who go into such relationships often use drugs and alcohol. After all, in such a relationship, there is a need to cover the conscience. Therefore, they are addicted to alcohol and drugs. This can lead to another type of disaster. Addictions can also develop.
How long can it be hidden from children? After drinking alcohol and swapping, it is too late to get up the next day. What mood does this create in children? Some children will be shocked and some will be in a bad mood.
Being a child with a behavioral disorder can also lead to blackmail. Such cases also come up. Seen in others, these are women who start out for a taste and end up in trauma without being able to end it later. When it comes to thinking about their own children and their future, most people seek treatment without being able to cope with the stress. There have even been suicide attempts as a result.
There are those who wonder if women will agree to all this. However, if the partner is sexually aroused, there is a way to enjoy watching the wife share the bed with someone else. Women seek treatment when they are on the verge of suicide without disclosing anything. All this is achieved by psychologically exploiting women in various ways. This work is introduced only after mental and emotional dominance has been established. Helplessness is naturally exploited.
They will keep trying to prove that you are incompetent. Some even keep pictures and videos of the partner sharing a bed with another person. There are those who say that if a woman raises her voice, she will be threatened. Couples swapping is not a mental problem, however, sexual perversions are a mental problem. It should be treated ‘.
English Summary: Reasons Behind Partner Swapping in Kerala; Psychologists Analyse
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