On the July 18th episode of MBC’s ‘Eun-Young Oh Report – Marriage Hell’, newlyweds Ahn Joo-young and Kim Su-yeon appeared in their fourth year of marriage.
On this day, the husband confessed, “Since the beginning of the newlyweds, I have had the thought that I can do enough housework because I love my wife. But from a certain point on, even though I work hard at housework, I only hear scolding for my wife, so I hate to do it and it becomes difficult.”
While the wife woke up late and stayed at home all day, the husband rode a bicycle with people and acted as a representative of the group. Her wife, who said she felt helpless and skeptical about relationships after leaving the company, said she felt more depressed after her marriage, as she felt distanced from her husband.
My husband said, “It’s no exaggeration to say that he calls me all day. There are many times that I don’t pay attention. There are many times when I send a long Kakaotalk.
Dr. Oh Eun-young said, “Looking at the two of them, it’s not that the husband does a lot of outdoor activities, but the problem is much more common when the two of them are at home together. did.
Dr. Oh said, “My husband is someone who is very important in meaningful activities in life. A cause is important. Maybe it was an illusion that I liked my wife, but because we met at a religious organization, we have similar values, so I think we can do it together. On the other hand, a wife is not someone who gives her heart, energy and time for others. So the problem is, the husband doesn’t hate his wife, he doesn’t want to be at home. He’s much happier when he’s outside. Important values are realized and I feel proud, but I don’t feel proud at home. It seems that my wife doesn’t know this. My husband hasn’t changed, but that’s what he is.”
Afterwards, the two went on a date to the market, and although the husband made aegyo to buy dakgangjeong, the wife’s wallet could not be opened easily. The husband said, “My wife spends close to 0 won for a year. I don’t really spend it. Even if I get sick, I don’t go to the hospital to save money. It’s all about eating once or twice.”
When asked, “Are you tightening your belt because your income is low?”, the wife replied, “There is such a thing. I don’t use it because I don’t want to earn. I didn’t want to work, so I chose to reduce consumption.”
In a situation where the husband was absent for a short time, the wife was nervous even choosing chicken gangjeong and paying by phone. As soon as she got home and ate chicken gangjeong, her wife complained to her husband, “Why don’t you care about me when I go out?” Her husband’s expression hardened as she continued talking about her wife.
It turns out that the husband went to buy Korean beef while his wife paid for the chicken gangjeong. Her wife said, “Then that’s all you need to explain.” In response, the husband said, “Do you not let me buy it?” and her wife expressed her dissatisfaction by saying, “I want to eat, but why can’t I buy it?”
My husband said, “I want to eat chicken once or twice a year, so how do I talk about Korean beef?”
Afterwards, the husband did not reply to his wife’s text message at the meeting with his friends, and when questioned about the reason, he said, “It felt like emotional labor and I was exhausted. How long do I have to be like this? He said, shocking his wife.
He said, “I’m tired of trying to fit in. I don’t see you working hard. If I see a small piece of garbage while cleaning, I can take it out myself, but I don’t clean it, so it seems I’m getting tired.”
The wife said, “Did you tell me if it was difficult? I thought it was okay, but it wasn’t okay either.” Her wife said, “People like me should have lived alone. I depend too much on everything and hope that they will do everything like a parasite.”
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who saw this in the studio, said, “My wife is also pitiful. Let’s talk about going out to Mangwon Market. My heart aches, as if the couple looked like poor people who had a hard time making a living. Dakgangjeong was eaten by her husband. “It was something I wanted to do. I could have bought it, but they couldn’t do it. It was because of the money. Rather than the money it costs to buy chicken gangjeong, buying it, taking it, opening it, and sharing happiness is something that cannot be measured in terms of price, but they didn’t know anything about it.”
Then, he said, “My husband said, ‘I’ll come back for a while.’ It’s a common occurrence when I go shopping. Of course, I don’t do this to a young child who needs protection that should never be left alone. It was not. It was the appearance of an abandoned child. It was an uneasy look without knowing what to do.”
He continued, “My husband only ate one meal once a year. After that, he criticizes me. Of course, I can tell you that I am sad. But what worries me is that when something becomes uncomfortable, my wife doubts the intentions of others. “I think I cheated. If I’m not comfortable, if I think that ‘others treated me badly’ or ‘others cheated on me’, there is no one in the universe who can match this.”
Then he said, “I don’t think my wife was very close to anyone,” and my wife answered “yes”.
When Dr. Oh asked, “Did you have a lot of difficulty as a child?” the wife said, “It was a little difficult. He said there were times when there was no rice at home. It was difficult and I had to take notice when I was a child. It seems that I did not have much emotional connection with my parents. Mother My father also has a lot of blunt parts, so he didn’t feel that he was loved much. There wasn’t much to praise him for doing well.
Dr. Oh said, “Who wants to be financially difficult on purpose? Everyone has flaws. When a wife is not at ease, doubting the other person’s intentions is a part of the lack of childhood, and it is believed that the husband provided many causes. “It’s scary. Showing a childlike appearance to your husband means you trust him very much. But isn’t your husband a parent? If you ask your spouse to love you like a parent, how will your husband endure?”
Dr. Oh continued, “I want to say this because the two are still in love.” “My husband is too permissive. I think he should do what he says. We need to practice talking to the person we love.” .
Dr. Oh said, “I think you have to go into a true marriage. Planning for children is the second priority for a couple. It seems important to increase the time they spend together. I think it would be good to eat out together once a week. A cheap menu is also good. I hope we can break down the wall when we come up with a specific plan like that and we want to do it together.”
Regarding his wife, Dr. Oh said, “I can understand why the wife is so absorbed in her. They are not loved enough, so there is a lack. It doesn’t start with the wife, but you have to make up for it yourself. I hope to fill that hole little by little by discussing, believing, and talking about feelings and thoughts.”
Meanwhile, ‘Eun-Young Oh Report – Marriage Hell’, which is aired every Monday at 10:30 pm, is a married solution of Dr. Eun-Young Oh, a ‘national mentor’.
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