Postcoital dysphoria, also known as “postsex blues”, refers to the feeling of extreme anxiety and sadness that occurs after sex, and although it usually occurs in people who have survived some kind of sexual trauma or assault, clinical psychologist dr. Lori Beth Bisbee says that in her practice, she has seen many patients who have not had traumatic sexual experiences, but are overwhelmed with negative feelings after sex.
– I guess this happens to people who expected more from their sexual experiences – Bisbey told “The Post”.
Many people, explains dr. Bisbee expects a higher level of pleasure and intimacy to relieve stress, and when it doesn’t, they feel sad. However, she emphasizes, there is a difference between the post-sex blues and the general wave of emotions that can occur after sex.
– People can cry or laugh even after pleasant and intense experiences because crying and laughing are like letting air out of a pressure valve – she explained and added:
– This especially happens if the experience was physically very intense, e.g. strong or multiple orgasms.
However, true post-coital dysphoria can lead to serious problems, such as avoiding intimacy, so if you often suffer from anxiety or depression after sex, there are several ways to get rid of the problematic emotions.
– Before sex, clarify why you have it and why you chose that partner – she says.
– If you feel guilt or shame, first examine it – talk to your partner, friend or professional. Also, do not expect that physical intimacy will solve the problems in the relationship – she warned.
– Physical intimacy increases the relationship, but solving problems requires conversation and negotiation.
As he says:
– Sometimes in women, hormonal problems can also cause post-sexual blues. I had a 52-year-old client who came to me because she cried every time she had sex with her husband and it became so that she avoided sex because of it. Her symptoms started around age 50, at the same time as her menopausal symptoms. Menopause symptoms also negatively affected her sex life, so she needed several months of therapy to separate physical symptoms from emotional ones and solve emotional problems so that she could enjoy sex again – she said, reports Courier.
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