Pawlicki & Więdłocha: Couples Therapy on Polsat
Okay, this appears to be a snippet of a comment section from a gossip/celebrity website (pudelek.pl). It’s a messy, emotionally charged exchange. Here’s a breakdown of what’s happening, and what advice can be gleaned from it, assuming someone is asking for help with the situation described in the first comment:
The Situation (from the first comment):
* Uninvited/Unaccepted: The commenter feels they haven’t been invited to something and aren’t being accepted by someone (likely a group or a person’s social circle).
* Immature Partner: Their “guy” (boyfriend/partner) is described as immature and unable to handle the situation. Specifically, he can’t deal with the commenter’s desire not to talk about certain people (presumably the people excluding them).
* The core Problem: The commenter is hurt by being excluded and frustrated by their partner’s inability to support them.
The Responses:
* Commenter 2 (🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄): This is dismissive and unhelpful. The eye-roll emojis indicate disbelief or contempt. They also make a very harsh and subjective judgment about the attractiveness of the “guy.”
* Commenter 3 (Agnieszka J.): This commenter is supportive of the person being excluded (“Agnieszka”) and praises her beauty and potential. This is a complete shift in topic and doesn’t address the original problem.
Advice for the Original Commenter (the person who wrote “Hello I have not invited me…”)
This is a tough situation. Here’s a breakdown of how to approach it, broken down into dealing with the exclusion and dealing with the partner:
1. Dealing with the Exclusion:
* Identify the Source: Who is excluding you? Is it a specific person, a group of friends, a family member? Knowing this is crucial.
* Consider Why: Why might you be excluded? Is it a misunderstanding? Is there a history of conflict? Are you simply not a good fit for the group? (This is hard to assess objectively, but try.)
* Direct Communication (if appropriate): If you feel agreeable, and it’s a situation where direct communication is likely to be productive, calmly ask the person/people involved why you weren’t included. Avoid accusations. Example: “I noticed I wasn’t invited to [event]. I was a little disappointed, and I was wondering if there was a reason?” Be prepared for an answer you might not like.
* Acceptance (sometimes): Sometimes, people simply don’t want to include you, and you have to accept that. It’s painful, but constantly trying to force yourself into situations where you’re not wanted is draining.
* Focus on Your Own Life: Invest your time and energy in relationships and activities that do make you feel valued and included.
2. Dealing with the Immature Partner:
* Recognise the Pattern: Your partner’s inability to handle this situation is a red flag. He’s not supporting you,and he’s avoiding a arduous conversation.
* Direct, Calm Conversation (again): Talk to him when you’re both calm. Explain how his lack of support makes you feel. Use “I” statements. Example: “I feel unsupported when I’m hurt by being excluded,and you avoid talking about it.”
* Set Boundaries: Tell him what you need from him. “I need you to be willing to discuss difficult things with me.” “I need you to validate my feelings, even if you don’t agree with them.”
* Consider Relationship Counseling: If he’s unwilling to communicate or change, relationship counseling might be helpful.
* Evaluate the Relationship: If he consistently dismisses your feelings, avoids conflict, and is unable to provide emotional support, you need to seriously consider whether this relationship is healthy for you. An immature partner can be incredibly draining.
Crucial considerations:
* The Online Context: You’re posting this on a public forum.