Pawlicki & Więdłocha: Couples Therapy on Polsat

Okay, this appears ⁢to be a snippet of a comment section from a gossip/celebrity website ⁢(pudelek.pl). It’s a messy, emotionally charged exchange. Here’s a breakdown of what’s happening, and what‍ advice⁣ can be gleaned from it, assuming someone is asking for help with the situation described‍ in ⁤the first comment:

The Situation (from the first comment):

* Uninvited/Unaccepted: The commenter feels they haven’t been invited to something and ⁢aren’t being accepted by someone (likely a group or⁣ a person’s social circle).
* Immature Partner: ⁤Their “guy” (boyfriend/partner) is described as immature and ⁢unable to handle the situation. Specifically, he can’t deal with the commenter’s desire ⁣ not to talk about certain people (presumably the people excluding them).
* The⁤ core ⁤Problem: The commenter is hurt by being excluded and frustrated by their partner’s inability to⁤ support them.

The Responses:

* Commenter 2 (🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄): This ⁢is dismissive and unhelpful. ⁣ The eye-roll ‍emojis indicate disbelief or contempt.‍ They also make a very harsh and‍ subjective judgment about the attractiveness of the “guy.”
* Commenter 3 (Agnieszka J.): This ⁢commenter is supportive‍ of the ‍person being excluded (“Agnieszka”) and praises her beauty and potential. This is a complete shift in topic and doesn’t address the original problem.

Advice⁢ for the Original Commenter (the person who wrote “Hello I ⁤have not invited me…”)

This is a tough situation. Here’s a breakdown of how to approach it,⁢ broken down into dealing with the exclusion and dealing with the partner:

1. Dealing ⁢with ‍the Exclusion:

* Identify the Source: Who ⁢ is excluding you? Is it a⁢ specific⁢ person, a group of friends, a family member? Knowing ⁢this is crucial.
* ⁢ Consider Why: ⁤ Why might you be excluded? Is ⁢it a misunderstanding? Is there a history of conflict? Are you simply not ⁤a good fit for the group? ⁣(This is hard ⁣to assess objectively, but try.)
* Direct Communication (if appropriate): If you feel agreeable, ⁣and it’s a situation⁣ where direct communication⁣ is likely to be productive, calmly ask the person/people involved why you weren’t included. Avoid accusations. Example: “I noticed I wasn’t invited to [event].⁤ I ‍was a little disappointed, and I was wondering if there was a reason?” Be prepared for an ⁤answer you might not like.
* Acceptance (sometimes): Sometimes, people simply don’t want to include you,⁢ and you have to accept that. It’s painful, but constantly trying to force yourself into situations where you’re not wanted is draining.
* ⁣ Focus on Your Own Life: ‍ Invest ⁤your time and energy in relationships and activities that do make you feel valued and included.

2. Dealing with the Immature Partner:

* ⁣ Recognise the Pattern: Your partner’s ⁣inability to handle this situation⁣ is a red flag. He’s not supporting you,and he’s avoiding a arduous conversation.
* ‍ Direct, Calm Conversation (again): Talk to him when you’re both calm. ‍ Explain ⁤how his lack⁣ of support makes you feel.⁢ Use “I”⁤ statements. Example: “I feel ⁢unsupported ⁣when I’m⁣ hurt by being excluded,and you avoid talking about it.”
* Set Boundaries: Tell him ‍what you need from him. “I need you to be willing to discuss difficult things with me.” “I need you to validate my⁤ feelings, even ⁤if⁣ you don’t agree with them.”
* ⁢ Consider Relationship Counseling: If he’s unwilling to communicate or change, relationship counseling might be helpful.
* Evaluate the Relationship: If he consistently dismisses your feelings, avoids conflict, and is unable to provide emotional support, you need to seriously ⁤consider whether this relationship is healthy for you. An immature partner can be incredibly draining.

Crucial considerations:

* The Online Context: You’re posting this‍ on a public forum.