Scolded for Being a High Achiever: My Daughter’s Shocking Experience in Huang Duoduo Literature City
Little S’s Second Daughter Hacked Again?
A few days ago, Xu Shaoen, Little S’s second daughter, shared a series of photos on Instagram. The photos showed her wearing a normal outfit, but netizens interpreted it into various dark styles.
Obviously, it’s a normal outfit, but some netizens made comments like “flattery” and “the smell of prostitution is too strong.” Some even suspected that Xiao S wanted to train his second daughter to become a tool for making money.
Studies have shown that when women’s appearance is objectified, they will be mechanically dehumanized. When a woman is “dehumanized”, her natural instincts are denied and she is considered inactive and unconscious. This can easily lead to a loss of empathy and trigger another crisis, namely violence.
Like verbal abuse. Huang Lei’s daughter, Huang Duoduo, has also faced similar criticism. At first, she dyed her hair purple and was chased and scolded like a bad girl. She even went online to the point where it affected her studies.
Later, she shared a photo of herself baking a cake. She was wearing casual clothes and looked like a normal girl. However, the comments area is full of exaggerated comments. Words like “marital feeling” and “wild model temperament”, which are extremely demeaning to women, have all been applied to an underage girl.
The 17-year-old also faced expected criticism when she took a photo in a swimsuit: There are so many styles of swimsuits, why do you wear them low-cut?
It seems that once a girl grows from a child to a girl, she immediately becomes a target of persecution. The more vivid and edifying their lives, the further they are from the traditional perception of men, and the easier it is for them to be modified and transformed into “escaped aliens”.
In traditional cognition, the ideal female image is mostly docile and obedient, while the other type is crazy and destructive. And when a woman’s energy or behavior begins to threaten their dominant order, she will be ashamed of being a slut.
Girls in adolescence are absolutely unflattering and can even try too hard in their desire to become more powerful and mature. From children to mature women, girls’ aesthetics and thinking are ignored.
So much so that whenever celebrity daughters appear as real girls, netizens feel offended by some kind of authority: how can they have autonomy over their bodies?
They directly identify with the parents of the second generation of stars and feel that they are the parents who want to educate their children in this way. These people never consider girls as themselves.
When a real girl shows off her youth, she is criticized for not being a girl. But when a girl turns into a mature woman, her potential is limited by the “feminine” aesthetic. She can never be too flashy or unlovable.
What she wears, how she looks, and what she should do at each age are determined by her parents, netizens, etc. They all go beyond the woman herself.
The life of an East Asian girl is a life of awakening after adulthood and trying to escape from all kinds of shame. Writer Manon Garcia once mentioned the phenomenon she observed:
“In Western society, many girls who have just entered puberty have a strong dislike for their bodies. The reason is that before they experience changes in their bodies, their bodies have already begun to be judged.”
The most direct manifestation is the control of women’s clothing and appearance from the family to society. Japanese school uniforms have a history of over a hundred years, and society’s expectations of women have also been reflected in designs such as sailor uniforms.
Wearing a skirt can express one’s sexual characteristics very well, and then it can unconsciously limit women’s words and actions to make them in line with the weakness of girls.
Under the post about “beauty shame”, many girls complained that they did not dare to wear beautiful skirts, that they did not dare to be too confident and show
