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Fatima Bhutto: Abusive Relationship Memoir

Had Fatima Bhutto ‌ been left to her own devices, her devastating forthcoming memoir would have been ‌almost entirely ⁣about her relationship with her​ dog, Coco. “I know it sounds nuts,”⁢ she⁣ laughs.And it’s true that being dog-crazy⁤ doesn’t quite track​ with‍ the ⁢public perception of Bhutto as a writer, journalist, activist and member of Pakistan’s most famous political dynasty.‍ But the pandemic had forced something of a ‌creative unravelling and⁤ when Bhutto took stock, she⁢ found herself only really ⁣able to⁤ write about Coco.​ Her agent politely suggested her ⁣memoir might need something more. A second‍ draft was written, ⁣then ⁤abandoned.

“Until​ I thought, what if I⁢ just tell the truth? And then it ‌fell out of me – it didn’t even pour, it ⁤fell.” In around three⁤ weeks ​Bhutto had reworked her draft and, ⁣in the process, revealed a ‍shocking chapter of ‌her life that she’d ‌kept secret from everyone around her.

The resulting⁢ book, The‌ Hour of the Wolf, ‍is a raw,⁣ vulnerable account of an abusive, decade-long relationship that Bhutto endured, certain in her ‌belief that this was love. It charts the painful realisation that this man (she ⁣only ‌refers⁢ to him as The Man), who she‌ writes is “unlike anyone that I have ever met: ⁢uninhibited, blazingly sure of himself … beautiful, rugged, old-school masculine … a free spirit”, had manipulated‍ her into⁣ accepting that flashes of kindness and​ sporadic adventure were the‍ real​ deal.

The two met in ‍New York in 2011,when Bhutto ​was on ‍tour with⁣ her sensational family memoir,Songs of Blood and​ Sword. The ⁤book‍ caused a major stir in Pakistan and beyond by re-evaluating the Kennedy-esque Bhutto dynasty;‍ Fatima held her aunt, Benazir, partially responsible for ‍her father’s murder. The grief was palpable.

Fatima embarked ‌on ⁣a long-distance relationship with The‍ Man, ⁤meeting⁢ around once a month over a ‍period ‌of 11 years. It ‍suited her; she was often travelling for journalistic assignments ⁣or‍ being ⁣invited to speak at literary events and festivals across‍ the world. ⁢She wrote novels and⁢ essays. She was nominated ‌for the Women’s⁢ prize for fiction. None of this⁣ was really of interest to The Man, who became controlling. His darker side‌ was full ‍of rage; he would‌ treat her ‌with abuse then⁤ silence,​ contempt and scorn. In‍ Bhutto’s description,he would switch fromBhutto has always guarded her ​privacy – which makes her account all the more tough and exposing – ⁣but that she didn’t tell any of her many friends that she had⁣ a ​boyfriend,let⁣ alone what thier relationship was like,is hard to reconcile. This, of course, was ⁣due to ‍the ​nature​ of the “love” ⁣The Man had manufactured between ​them: ‌he insisted ⁢they had to‍ remain a​ secret, they weren’t⁤ to indulge ⁤in “normal” behavior‌ such as meeting each other’s friends​ or family, living in the⁣ same ⁣city, let alone the same home.

“I‍ had read stories and seen things throughout my life about women who’d been‍ put in hazardous situations by men.I just never ‍thought I​ was one of⁤ them because it hadn’t been ⁣physical,⁤ you ‍know?”⁣ (She says ​this, though in the book she recounts that he⁤ once⁣ bit her finger so hard,⁤ it gave her nerve damage.) “So I just thought that​ that would‍ never happen to me, ⁤that it could never ⁣happen. All the while ⁤it ⁣was happening, and happening, and happening, and I hadn’t connected it. I ⁣just thought ‌the cliche was to obvious.⁢ You know,‌ that someone wants⁣ to ​break a strong woman?”‍ Bhutto projects ‍poise, even when she’s being wry. “I ‌mean, I was not ⁢young enough for‍ this to​ be excusable.”

Was there a part ‍of her, in the years she spent⁢ independently ‌travelling and living all over the world, establishing her⁣ career, that thought this relationship was⁤ all she deserved?

“That’s the amazing thing,” she says,⁤ trying to reconcile her solid self-esteem ⁢against what she was put through.”There ⁤was no part of me that thought that. ⁢It was the opposite. ​I used to say to him: ‘If‌ I hadn’t had the father I ⁤had, you would have damaged me. You know, if I had an absent father, if I had a father ⁢that⁣ was cruel, or if ⁢I had⁢ a⁣ father that never ‌told me I was clever or smart or strong, you ⁤would⁣ have done harm to me.’ And he ‍didn’t break‌ me in the end.” On​ this she ⁤is clear. “I felt damaged by him, ‌but I know that the‍ damage he wanted to do was total.”

Bhutto’s father, Murtaza Bhutto, ‌was the ⁤eldest son of Zulfikar⁤ Ali Bhutto, founder of Pakistan People’s party (PPP) ‌and⁤ prime‌ minister ‍of the country in ⁣the 1970s. The story of the ⁣Bhuttos is‍ in many ‍ways ⁣the story of ‌Pakistan. Their family history⁣ is the nation’s⁤ history, and it ⁤is indeed under ⁤the weight of⁣ immense ‍scrutiny and violence that Fatima has lived her whole life.

Her⁣ grandfather Zulfikar ​was overthrown by a military coup ⁤and executed in 1979, in ​circumstances that sent shockwaves around th

Fatima Bhutto’s Early ‌Life and Family ⁣history

Fatima Bhutto spent ​a portion of her childhood in secret, living in Syria with⁣ her stepmother and brother following the death ‍of her father,‌ Murtaza⁢ Bhutto, in‌ 1996.

Born in 1982, Fatima⁤ is the granddaughter of former Pakistani Prime Minister zulfikar ​Ali Bhutto and the niece of⁤ former Prime Minister Benazir Bhutto.⁤ Her father, Murtaza Bhutto, was a politician and activist who founded the Pakistan ⁣People’s Party (Shaheed ⁢Bhutto)​ after‌ a disagreement with his sister, ⁣Benazir. Murtaza ⁣Bhutto was killed in a police encounter in Karachi on September‍ 20, ​1996, an⁣ event that remains controversial and subject to ⁤various investigations.

Following her father’s ​death, ⁤Fatima,⁤ along with ‍her stepmother Ghinwa Bhutto and ⁣younger brother Zulfikar Ali Bhutto jr., lived in secrecy in⁣ Syria for a period. According to Fatima,her‍ upbringing was marked by a strange normalcy despite the surrounding turmoil. ‍She recalls⁣ being ⁤given little warning before being sent to Damascus, maintaining a facade of routine while facing notable upheaval.‌

Life in ⁤Exile​ and Return to ​pakistan

Fatima Bhutto’s time in​ Syria was characterized by⁣ a unique blend of privilege and fear.

The family’s move to ⁣Syria was motivated by concerns for their safety after Murtaza Bhutto’s death. Fatima describes​ a childhood where she ⁢was informed of significant life changes with little explanation, such⁢ as being told they​ were going to Damascus at midnight⁢ without a‍ clear reason. This experience highlights the precariousness of their situation ⁤and the need for secrecy.

Fatima eventually returned ⁤to Pakistan and pursued her education. She attended ⁣Karachi Grammar School and later​ Smith College in Massachusetts, graduating in 2004 with a⁣ degree in Middle eastern Studies. She then earned a Master of Arts degree ⁣in ​South Asian ⁤and Middle Eastern Studies from SOAS University of London ‍in 2005.

Career as a Writer and Activist

Fatima ⁤Bhutto is a prominent⁢ Pakistani writer and‍ activist known for her​ political commentary and literary works.

Bhutto ‍has ​authored several books, including “Whispers of the ‍Desert” (2006), a collection of poetry, and “The Shadow of​ the Crescent moon” (2007), ⁤a novel that explores themes ​of family,​ loss, and political turmoil⁤ in Pakistan. ⁢Her non-fiction work, “Songs of Blood: The Bhutto Dynasty” (2010), provides a critical examination of ⁤her⁣ family’s history⁣ and its impact on Pakistani politics.

She ⁢frequently contributes to⁣ international publications, offering insights on Pakistani politics, social issues, and ⁤the broader geopolitical landscape. In‌ 2013, she was named one of the ⁢”500 Most Influential Muslims” by Royal Islamic Strategic⁢ Studies Center. ⁢Bhutto continues to be a vocal advocate for‌ social​ justice‍ and human rights⁢ in Pakistan and beyond.

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