[Epoch Times October 31, 2021]When the child was seven years old, her husband suddenly passed away in a work accident. At that time, I had practiced Falun Gong for more than three years. With the support of Falun Dafa, I quickly calmed down and cooperated with my family to properly handle the funeral affairs. My mother-in-law’s family went to negotiate with my husband’s unit about losing money. I didn’t participate, let alone embarrassing others. After receiving the compensation, the mother-in-law deducted the largest share for my son. I know they are afraid of my remarriage, and the relatives of my in-laws look at me with strange eyes and talk secretly behind them.
I don’t mind all of this, and I understand the feelings of my in-laws at this time. In order to comfort the elderly, I treat them as before. Every New Year, I spend it at my in-law’s house, buying new year’s goods and making dumplings together on New Year’s Eve, just like when my husband was there. On various festivals, I usually buy things that the elderly love to eat to visit my in-laws. One year I didn’t celebrate my father-in-law’s birthday because of something, and then I gave it to him. I often call my mother-in-law, sometimes it lasts an hour. With other relatives in the mother-in-law’s house, I also walked around as usual, without any change.
As I continued to practice, I became more and more able to think about others from the perspective of the other person, and try to understand the difficulties and needs of others, and became more kind and selfless. One year her mother-in-law got acute pneumonia and was hospitalized. I know she loves cleanliness, so I bought new quilts, new sheets, towels, etc., and sent them to her in advance. At that time, a patient in the mother-in-law’s clinic thought that I was showing her mother-in-law’s money deliberately. He looked at me with contempt and said some sarcasm. I ignored it either. Maybe later my mother-in-law told her about my situation, and when I went to see her mother-in-law next time, the person’s attitude completely changed and he gave me approving glances. My mother-in-law doesn’t like to eat hospital food, so I get up early to cook for her every day, and send it to her around 7 in the morning. In order not to delay my mother-in-law’s meal, I have to get up at 4 o’clock every morning. Sometimes I am afraid of oversleeping, so I don’t dare to sleep when I wake up at 2 o’clock in the middle of the night.
At that time, I ran a small clothing store by myself, and I had to open the door for business in the morning when I brought food to the hospital. Sometimes I fell asleep when I was trapped in the store. In the winter of that year, spinach was eight yuan a catty. In order to change the taste of my mother-in-law, I bought dumplings and sent them to her. Before my mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital, I went to her mother-in-law’s house in advance to clean up the house and prepare meals. I also went to the hospital to see and take care of my father-in-law.
The mother-in-law’s family was deeply moved, as long as I mentioned me, there was nothing bad. Every time I participate in weddings and funerals for family members, at the banquet, the mother-in-law always proudly introduces to others: “This is my eldest daughter-in-law!” The mother-in-law also knows that I am so good because of Falun Gong practice. Very righteous towards Dafa. Later, she learned that her neighbor’s mistress was also a practitioner of Dafa. She was full of praise: “You (cultivators) of Falun Gong are good!” The master of the family was in poor health. Seeing his wife who practiced Dafa, she would also follow suit. Woke up.
In 2015, many Falun Gong practitioners sued Jiang Zemin for being harassed by the police, and the police also came to the mother-in-law’s neighbor’s house and knocked on the door. The mother-in-law opened the door and said, “Don’t knock, there is no one in her house.” The mother-in-law used her own way to protect the good person in her mind—the Dafa disciple.
Let me talk about the child. My husband suddenly passed away, and the entire housework, including educating the children, fell on me alone, and I had to make money to support the family, which was very hard. Soon after her husband passed away, the child suffered from meningitis, had a fever and vomited, and was admitted to the hospital. In a hurry, I thought of Falun Gong and communicated with the child: “Mom will take you to listen to the recording of Dafa Master’s lecture, okay?” The child agreed very happily. I started to play recordings for him. After listening for about half a day, when I heard the fourth lecture, the child miraculously recovered. I asked him how he was good? He said: “I felt that something was turning on my head, and it was fine afterwards!” Master saved the child, and our hearts are filled with infinite gratitude to Master!
In the process of educating children, I follow Chinese traditional moral concepts and guide children with correct values. I often recite poems from Master’s “Hong Yin” with him, and I often tell him the principles of life. Once, I found my child was stealing my money to play a game console, so I calmly said to him: “My child, if you really want to play, you can ask your mother. I can let you play properly. But you must not lie, let alone. Stealing mother’s money. Think about it, if your mother lied to you, would you be sad? Without credit, you won’t be able to get along with others in the future!” The child understands that he has never stolen money again, and he won’t lie anymore.
The big dye vat of society drives people down, and even children cannot escape from it. In a twinkling of an eye, the child has reached puberty and has become very rebellious. For a while, I was anxious and didn’t know what to do, and even wanted to ignore him, so I could just become a monk by myself. But I think that if I don’t care, it will definitely bring a huge burden to the grandparents of the children. The two old men had endured the pain of losing their children and could no longer cause them to worry. Through constant introspection in the Fa and finding myself, I have learned that if I want to educate my children well, I must first change myself. Only when I become better can I solve the problem fundamentally.
So I no longer demand the child, no matter how he behaves, I sincerely treat him well, tolerate his shortcomings, tolerate him, and be gentle and tempting, and reasonable. Slowly, the child changed, became obedient, and understood me. At the same time, his academic performance also rose sharply, and finally he was admitted to the ideal university.
At the college entrance banquet, I said to the children in my speech: “My child, you must know how to be grateful. Others are good for you. You can’t forget them, and you must repay them. If others treat you badly, you must thank them, because this shows If you didn’t do a good job, he showed you your shortcomings. You have to work hard to correct them.” At the same time, I told my relatives and friends present: “Because of the belief in’Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance’, I can come to this day. Educate your children well. Thank you Dafa! Thank you Master!”
Before my child left school, I told him: “You must call your grandparents frequently, and you must be filial to your grandparents.”
After graduation, the child found a stable job. I also often ask him to work hard and be tolerant and understanding towards colleagues. The child is doing very well, and the level is quickly promoted from elementary to intermediate and advanced. In a skill competition, he won a prize of more than 3,000 yuan. The child bought an air conditioner for his grandparents without telling me.
In the twenty years after my husband passed away, I have supported this family alone, and at the same time I have been filial to my in-laws and raised my children as adults. In the eyes of others, I live a very hard life. But my heart is always full of joy and sunshine, and my face is always full of smiles, which can bring happiness to others everywhere, and I look much younger than my actual age. It was Master and Dafa who gave me a new life. In Falun Dafa faith, I have gone through hardships, and in Falun Dafa practice, I have moved towards the light! I want to say from the bottom of my heart: “Master, thank you! Thank you Dafa!”
Article source Minghui.com: A daughter-in-law who makes her husband’s family proud
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